Every mother’s nightmare is having to hear that the school her child attends is no longer a place of safety, but has instead become the hunting ground for a predator (for they can no longer be called human). One that preys on innocent kids for their own perverse pleasures.
There was a recent incident in Melkbos and now parents in Balfour are petitioning against the bail application of a 71 year old man that is the owner of a crèche whom it has been found has sexually assaulted two kids. Every day, more of these kids come forward.
I am heartbroken that a friend is living this nightmare, her daughter came forward as another victim. There are no words to convey her pain.
This is one subject that really riles me, and it is really sad that is seen as a taboo discussion topic.
The question that is foremost on everyone’s mind, did his wife, and co-owner of the crèche know about this? And if she did why did she keep quiet and allow this to go on under her roof, with kids that were entrusted into her care?
I have often wondered about the psychology surrounding this. Often when kids do come forward with these things they are not believed and that seems to perpetuate the cycle of not telling, as apparently happened in Balfour.
What is shocking is that in this year alone between January and June there has been 95,120 children who reported sexual abuse (Statistic from Children’s Advocacy Centre Statistics)
Of the 116,000 alleged offenders investigated for instances of child abuse
- 75,829 were 18+ years old
- 11,973 were ages 13 to 17 years
- 7,911 were under age 13 years
- 45,496 were a parent or step-parent of the victim
- 23,763 were related to the child victim in another way
- 36,628 were an unrelated person the victim knew
I think our natural defence against something like this is to pretend is doesn’t happen because it is just so terrible to acknowledge that a person that we know and love is capable of inflicting such harm on an innocent.
Although I was unable to find the statistic to give the exact numbers, I know that a very large part of the perpetrators were actually abused themselves as kids. I cannot imagine someone inflicting that particular kind of hell on someone else, especially when you have had to live through it yourself.
I am sorry, no matter what you have gone through, that is not reason enough to ruin the life of another, especially a child. No amount of jail time can make up for what has been stolen.
This is one wrong that cannot be righted, you cannot replace innocence.
My thoughts and prayers are with my friend and her family (especially her little girl) I hope that this too, shall pass.